"When angry, count to ten before you speak; if really angry, a hundred"
Sometimes we just want to yell, or throw something, or drive really fast, or break something, or hit something. Maybe a family member or a friend, or a colleague, or a stranger has messed up somehow, and we want to set them straight. You know, explain to the just how much of a screw-up they are and how their mistake will alter the fate of the universe as we know it. Maybe, we've been chewed out by someone….maybe "them" and now it's time for pay back. Start counting. However, I suggest counting down from ten, not up to it.
Some folks actually enjoy getting that angry. For them, it's almost like getting high. Or, it feels good because of the control of the environment that occurs. People tend to respond, one way or the other to an angry person who is expressing that anger, whether appropriately or inappropriately. Very few people will ignore an angry person who is expressing that anger in an open and observable manner. In other words, we feel powerful when getting angry enough and letting others know with our words, or expressions, and/or our actions just how pissed we are. Problem is, it's just like dope or alcohol.
The high doesn't last that long and we end up exhausted physically, mentally, and emotionally. We also have some amends to make to those we have hurt. When anger is expressed inappropriately, over and over again, for a long time, our anger and our apologies lose their credibility. People begin to just put up with us instead of respect us.
So, if you have a problem with how you are expressing or managing your anger, make an appointment with your counselor and learn how to get angry and get over it the right way.
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